The Power of Confidence

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Very often, having self-confidence is looked at as the ultimate social skill. We all crave it – and for good reason.

People with self-confidence usually find the world a much better place than those who suffer from a lack of it. It’s almost as though they see the world through rose-tinted glasses.

Why is this? Why do people with self-confidence lead so much better lives? Here are some reasons why confidence is such a highly sought after trait.

Confidence breeds trust

People usually find it a whole lot easier to trust a confident person. (Please note, there is a big difference between confidence and over-confidence, the latter of which does not breed trust at all!)

When you go for a job interview full of confidence, the interviewer plays off of it, and he gets the feeling that you are capable of performing the tasks required of the job scope.

When you ask someone out on a date, a confident person gives the girl (or guy) the feeling that they are in good hands and they will trust that a good time will be had.

A confident person is like a man wearing an invisible sign reading “I can do anything, and I can do it well!” – and people’s first instinct will be to trust the person.

Confidence breeds affection

Confident people are well liked by their family, their peers, their colleagues, their business associates, and their friends and by anyone they meet, really.

This may be due to the fact that confidence is akin to happiness. And people enjoy the company of happy people. This is a fact – after all, do you enjoy the company of a sad person? I didn’t think so.

So a confident man is a happy man. And a happy man always has more friends than a sad person.

Confidence commands authority

When a confident man speaks – other people listen. Maybe it’s in the way he talks, or maybe it’s what she is saying, or maybe it’s the reason why they say it.

We’ll never know what exactly the reason is – but the reality is that confident people find it so much easier to get other people to cooperate with them.

And if a confident person can breed trust and happiness in all the people that he or she meets, and can convince people to listen and adhere to what he or she says, then it only follows that he or she will have a much easier path in life than most people.

The power of confidence – it truly is a magical thing. And the best part is, it’s something that everyone and anyone can learn.

So if you wish to benefit from the advantages of self-confidence, now would be a good time to start nurturing that confidence.

I’m happy to have a no obligation telephone conversation about areas of confidence of performance you wish to improve. i guarantee results

email me nadia@naccoaching.co.uk in the first instance.

 

 

How I help you to be Confident and what is NLP?

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I am asked on a regular basis about how I can make people more confident, what do I do and how does NLP work?

There is no quick answer to this so it’s not often I get to give the long answer.  I thought I would take the time to give more of an explanation.

My one to one clients are different from the bespoke programmes that I offer small business owners but eventually all will confide in me on both personal and business issues because I take a holistic view of their lives and check where they may need help.

Often people will come to me with what they think is the problem, when in fact it is a sympton of the real problem. I have been told many times that I unravel this in an uncannily speedy time! I think I’m just great at trusting my intuition, and often hear what is NOT being said.

Basically I use 4 main tools, although this is not the full tool kit;

A structure for the session including a main aim for the client in each one with action points to take away

The Wheel of Life in which to take that holistic view

Deep incisive questioning to make my clients more self aware and to answer stuff they have never thought of before

And Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)

NLP has, in the past, been viewed with scepticism but for me my licensed practitioner’s course was the best thing I’ve ever completed, for my own personal development as well as helping to exceed my client’s expectations (90% say they didn’t expect to have such great results in such a short space of time).

So what is it?

Neuro

The nervous system, including the brain and the five senses and how we interpret the information we receive via our filters

 Linguistic

The verbal & non-verbal language symbols with which we code & transmit meaning.

 Programming

The ability to structure our neurological and linguistic systems to achieve certain results.

 The Fundamentals

1. Know what you want (Outcome / Direction)

 2. Get the attention of the unconscious mind and become more self aware

 3. Know whether you’re getting what you want (Sensory Acuity)

4. Adjust what you’re doing accordingly (Behavioural Flexibility)

NLP makes some presuppositions as follows. These are not necessarily true but can be very useful for successful communication influence.

  • · The map is not the territory
  • · Each person is unique
  • · Having choice is better than not having choice.
  • · People make the best choice available to them at the time
  • · Every behaviour has a positive intention.
  • · There is no failure, only feedback
  • · The resources the individual needs are already within them.
  • · The meaning of a communication is the response you get
  • · There is a solution to every problem
  • ·· Mind and body are one system

So what sort of people come to me? I have coached barristers, politicians, accountants, managers, executives, nurses, teachers, students, construction workers, housewives, brides to be, sole traders, service providers, architects, bankers, web designers – you get the drift!

I have helped them to be confident in communicating, networking, speaking, presenting, interviews, managing people, managing personal relationships, focusing, being more successful, happy, reducing stress, releasing their creativity and genius, finding their feet again after a setback, marketing, getting rid of procrastination to take action, and much more.

I do this face to face as a one to one, telephone, skype, group coaching or deliver an interactive workshop or a combination of medias.

Confidence is key to so many things but that gives a flavour.

Please take a look at the testimonials on the home page or contact me for more information