Make the Days count with Opportunity Thinking

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One of the things that fascinates me as a coach and a people watcher, is the remarkable achievements people make, even when faced with a mountain to climb.

I’ve just finished reading a book about Katie Piper, a beautiful TV presenter, who had acid thrown in her face by an ex boyfriend. The agony, pain, fear and then the realisation, acceptance, joy was an engrossing read.  The destination reached was because she never gave up and grabbed every opportunity to make her life better and of those who also suffered burns and acid attacks.

I would go as far as to say that she turned a tragedy into a personal triumph,

Opportunity thinking requires spotting them in the first place, being open to new ideas, courage to take them, welcoming the challenges and evaluating often.

The opposite to opportunity thinkers are those who don’t like to hope in case they are disappointed, who wear the black hat to think about how it all might fail (useful in a team but not the way to live life to the full). They are full of fear and pessimism.

And the most successful people are optimistic.

The first step towards becoming more confident and bold, and therefore more likely to be an opportunity taker, is to achieve the goals you have already set yourself – and then set some more. Constant learning and personal development is a fun and rewarding way to live a life and i also have a theory that mother nature appreciates a being that doesn’t stand still rather than a being that just carries out the same things day in day out, never growing, expanding or changing.

Work backwards from the dreams you want and break down the actions required. Make sure you understand the consequences of your decisions, thinking of all the stakeholders involved.

If your mind isn’t aligned it with your values and the people you care about, aims and goals are far less likely to happen.

Know your ‘Why’ – this is a biggy.

What are the daily, weekly, monthly commitments to this action – what can you delegate or where can you ask for help? From whom?

What are the risks and what are the acceptable levels? Where are the real opportunities?

Think about when convenience is chosen over difficult action or decisions – take my 10/10/10 test, which is:

How does this decision affect the next 10 days,  10 weeks,  10 months etc. Sometimes short term thinking is valid, sometimes long term solutions are more desirable.

Be the Captain of your Own Ship. Set sail but don’t ignore other horizons.

And if there are barriers or challenges, see them as pirates that you need to throw off your ship. Pirate Procrastination being the first one to throw overboard, followed by Pirate Pessism!

And if you want to get there even faster – hire a coach, like me!

Business Season Cycles

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When December approaches I often find myself reflecting on the year just passing and thinking of the aims I had at the beginning of the year.

I tend to have ‘themes’ for each year which guide where i am going to concentrate my efforts and invariably find Winter the season for cutting back, eliminating and letting go.

As business owners we all try to do too much, start new things without finishing them and procrastinate on our goals.

I see Spring as the season to think about new products and services, new ways to wow our customers, The Summer for making new contacts and getting those products out – so much nicer to network when the sun is shining! – and Autumn for nurturing all our relationships, cementing joint ventures.

Winter reflection is very important to me – its not something I do overnight. Good incisive questions like;

What was it that I did so well, that I should do more of it because it made the biggest difference to my business?

What’s the next thing and how does it help achieve my overall long term goal?

What did I enjoy, what didn’t I enjoy, what else can I delegate? Was i bold enough?

What’s my main theme for the year to help my own personal development?

These and many more need answering before any new goals are considered. It might just be a question of reviewing and updating current ones.

 

Put A Spring In Your Step!

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Easter is one of the most special public holidays of the year and my personal favourite.

As the mornings and evenings grow lighter and as the last of the winter frosts disappear, there is a great feeling of a new beginning.

I love noticing as I walk around my neighbourhood, that so many gardens are starting to look fresh and beautiful. People are taking the time to smile and have a chat. It truly is a great time of the year with so much to look forward to over the coming months.

This is also a great time of year to look back at those New Year resolutions, to review progress and to take any corrective action needed. It is the time to clear away the clutter in our homes and in our heads to make way for exciting challenges.

As a confidence coach I realise that the seasons can affect our attitudes and our self esteem.

Now that our surroundings are bursting with the promise of the warmth of summer, this is an ideal time to decide that you too will put right anything that you feel needs correcting in your own life.

This needn’t be an arduous task, as many of my clients will tell you. Several small changes can make a huge difference to your life.

 

So let me ask you a few questions:

 

What have you done over the last year that has been really useful?

What has not been so useful?

What should you do less of? More of? Start doing?

What is it that you do so well, that doing more of it will make the biggest difference?

What would you truly love to create in your life?

 

Take some time to really think about the answers to these questions and write down any new goals as well as review the ones you have already set.

 

Happy seed sowing!

 

And from me a really Great, Happy Easter!Image