I am asked on a regular basis about how I can make people more confident, what do I do and how does NLP work?
There is no quick answer to this so it’s not often I get to give the long answer. I thought I would take the time to give more of an explanation.
My one to one clients are different from the bespoke programmes that I offer small business owners but eventually all will confide in me on both personal and business issues because I take a holistic view of their lives and check where they may need help.
Often people will come to me with what they think is the problem, when in fact it is a sympton of the real problem. I have been told many times that I unravel this in an uncannily speedy time! I think I’m just great at trusting my intuition, and often hear what is NOT being said.
Basically I use 4 main tools, although this is not the full tool kit;
A structure for the session including a main aim for the client in each one with action points to take away
The Wheel of Life in which to take that holistic view
Deep incisive questioning to make my clients more self aware and to answer stuff they have never thought of before
And Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)
NLP has, in the past, been viewed with scepticism but for me my licensed practitioner’s course was the best thing I’ve ever completed, for my own personal development as well as helping to exceed my client’s expectations (90% say they didn’t expect to have such great results in such a short space of time).
So what is it?
The nervous system, including the brain and the five senses and how we interpret the information we receive via our filters
The verbal & non-verbal language symbols with which we code & transmit meaning.
The ability to structure our neurological and linguistic systems to achieve certain results.
1. Know what you want (Outcome / Direction)
2. Get the attention of the unconscious mind and become more self aware
3. Know whether you’re getting what you want (Sensory Acuity)
4. Adjust what you’re doing accordingly (Behavioural Flexibility)
NLP makes some presuppositions as follows. These are not necessarily true but can be very useful for successful communication influence.
- · The map is not the territory
- · Each person is unique
- · Having choice is better than not having choice.
- · People make the best choice available to them at the time
- · Every behaviour has a positive intention.
- · There is no failure, only feedback
- · The resources the individual needs are already within them.
- · The meaning of a communication is the response you get
- · There is a solution to every problem
- ·· Mind and body are one system
So what sort of people come to me? I have coached barristers, politicians, accountants, managers, executives, nurses, teachers, students, construction workers, housewives, brides to be, sole traders, service providers, architects, bankers, web designers – you get the drift!
I have helped them to be confident in communicating, networking, speaking, presenting, interviews, managing people, managing personal relationships, focusing, being more successful, happy, reducing stress, releasing their creativity and genius, finding their feet again after a setback, marketing, getting rid of procrastination to take action, and much more.
I do this face to face as a one to one, telephone, skype, group coaching or deliver an interactive workshop or a combination of medias.
Confidence is key to so many things but that gives a flavour.
Please take a look at the testimonials on the home page or contact me for more information